I recently started self-hosting an XMPP server for my friends and family, but when looking for privacy specific guides I can’t really find any. It seems like self-hosting is the baseline way to gain privacy, and with things like Docker and Yunohost it feels within reach for average users to learn enough to do it.

I loved the phone guide that was published here and was able to follow the steps and learn more about phone privacy. So are there any good guides like that but for servers?

I know security is different from privacy, hence why I’m asking specifically for privacy-oriented guides. Thanks in advance, lemmy has always been a fantastic community for helping out newbies!

Edit: More specific questions; is there a way for me to make my host IP address not readily available (I’m hosting in my house, not a VPS), is there a better option for security than using Cloudflare (this one I’m having a hard time with mostly because I still don’t quite understand what Cloudflare does?), I know some other servers say they delete messages from the server and identifying data…how? (I have metronome as the server for XMPP, using Yunohost)